There’s Power in Community
Helplessness often stems from feeling disconnected from agency. But when we come together—not just to organize, but to care for each other—we create ripples that challenge the systems making us feel small. Community isn’t just about action; it’s about remembering that we matter to each other.
Finding Connection When the World Feels Overwhelming
If you’ve so much as glanced at a headline lately, it’s easy to feel helpless. The weight of the world doesn’t just live in the news; it seeps into our nervous systems, our relationships, and our vision of the future. But one of the most powerful ways to counter that feeling of helplessness is to reconnect—with others, with purpose, with community.
You’re Not Alone (Even When It Feels Like It)
When we’re overwhelmed, isolation often follows. It’s tempting to withdraw, doom-scroll, or wait for the next piece of bad news to drop. But community doesn’t disappear just because we’re struggling—it waits patiently for us to return. Sometimes all it takes is a text to a friend, joining a local event, or a walk in the neighborhood to start to remember we’re not in this alone.
Small Actions, Big Impact
Sometimes connection starts with something small: volunteering with a group that resonates with you, checking in on a neighbor, or showing up to support others. These small acts of solidarity remind us of our power and shift us from despair into action.
Boundaries Are Part of Activism, Too
Caring about the world doesn’t mean burning yourself out. It’s okay to take breaks, set limits on your media consumption, and soothe your nervous system. Community thrives when we’re well enough to show up—and taking care of ourselves allows us to show up.
Find—or Build—Your People
Whether it’s a local group, an online space, or a couple close friends, community can look a lot of different ways. If you haven’t found your people yet, consider creating the space you need. Host a gathering, start a group chat, or attend events that align with your interests. Connection doesn’t have to be perfect.
There’s Power in Collective Care
Helplessness often stems from feeling disconnected from agency. But when we come together—not just to organize, but to care for each other—we create ripples that challenge the systems making us feel small. Community isn’t just about action; it’s about remembering that we matter to each other.
As a Therapist, You Know I Have to Validate Feelings in Closing
You’re allowed to feel overwhelmed. You’re allowed to feel grief and anger and fear. And you’re also allowed to seek joy, solidarity, and hope. The world might not change overnight—but we can still show up for each other in the meantime. That’s what community is for.
Goodness of Fit
"Therapist goodness of fit" refers to how well a therapist's style, approach, and personality align with the client's needs, preferences, and therapeutic goals. It emphasizes the importance of the therapeutic relationship and how the therapist’s ability to connect, understand, and respond to the client plays a crucial role in the effectiveness of therapy. A good fit between therapist and client can contribute to trust, comfort, and positive outcomes in treatment.
“It’s the relationship that heals.” - Irvin Yalom
"Therapist goodness of fit" refers to how well a therapist's style, approach, and personality align with the client's needs, preferences, and therapeutic goals. It emphasizes the importance of the therapeutic relationship and how the therapist’s ability to connect, understand, and respond to the client plays a crucial role in the effectiveness of therapy. A good fit between therapist and client can contribute to trust, comfort, and positive outcomes in treatment.
This concept can include various factors, such as:
Therapeutic approach: Some clients may respond better to certain therapeutic modalities depending on their personality and issues. Some people know a specific style they’re seeking out, while some may be open to testing out different modalities to see what works for them. Here is a (not brief at all) guide.
Personality and rapport: Although it is reasonable to dread some parts of therapy because it can bring up really strong feelings, you shouldn’t dread seeing your therapist! Find someone who has a personality that fits your needs and builds rapport.
Communication style: Do you want to work with someone who is very direct and uses a more structured approach? Do you feel more connected when people use humor, or might spend a few minutes discussing the latest episode of Love is Blind? We usually can’t pick the communication style of people we collaborate with; in therapy, you can!
Cultural responsiveness: A therapist’s ability to respect and integrate a client’s cultural background into the therapeutic process is crucial. A good fit might include a therapist who demonstrates cultural humility, intersectionality, and a dedication to continued education on cultural competence.
Basics: Does your availability match for continued sessions? Do you want flexibility for virtual or in-person? Do you feel comfortable in the office and is it accessible for you?
Why Does It Matter?
A strong fit helps you build trust and comfort so you can feel understood and supported. If you feel comfortable opening up to your therapist, you’re more likely to share honestly, which can lead to deeper insights and progress.
How Do You Know If It’s a Good Fit?
You don’t have to stick with a therapist who doesn’t feel like a good match. Some signs that you might not have a good fit include feeling misunderstood or disengaged in sessions. When you’ve found a good fit, you might notice that you’re more open, motivated, and committed to the process. Even if it feels uncomfortable at times, you feel supported in this process by your therapist.
Remember, therapy is an investment in your well-being, and it’s worth taking the time to find someone who truly feels right for you. If the first therapist you meet doesn’t click, don’t be discouraged—there are many wonderful professionals out there who may be a better fit.