Late-Diagnosed ADHD in Logan Square
Identity-affirming and neuro-affirming care in Logan Square and Avondale
A late diagnosis of ADHD can bring up relief, grief, and frustration. You may find yourself looking back on school, work, relationships, or habits and wondering, “What might have been different?”
You may feel exhausted from spending years working harder to stay organized, meet expectations, manage your emotions, or simply keep up.
A late diagnosis is particularly common among people whose ADHD symptoms were overlooked, misunderstood, or successfully compensated for earlier in life. This can include women and girls, POC, people with predominantly inattentive symptoms, high-achieving individuals, and people who developed strong coping strategies that helped mask ADHD symptoms.
You may have learned to compensate through perfectionism, over-preparation, and people-pleasing.
Therapy at Common Thread Counseling Chicago for late-diagnosed ADHD can help you understand your brain instead of masking, make sense of your experiences, and develop practical strategies that work with your ADHD rather than against it.
Common Challenges of Late-Diagnosed ADHD
Many adults with late-diagnosed ADHD have spent years believing they are unmotivated, forgetful, or "bad at adulting."
You may recognize yourself in experiences such as:
Knowing what you need to do but feeling unable to get started
Procrastinating until urgency creates enough motivation to act
Struggling with time management or frequently underestimating how long things will take
Forgetting appointments, deadlines, tasks, or important details
Feeling overwhelmed by household responsibilities or everyday tasks
Difficulty prioritizing when everything feels important
Difficulty shifting from one task or activity to another
Emotional intensity or difficulty regulating strong emotions
Rejection sensitive disorder
Struggling with burnout after periods of overworking or overcompensating
These experiences can affect work, relationships, parenting, self-esteem, and daily life. They can also contribute to anxiety, chronic stress, and burnout.
What Is ADHD Masking?
ADHD masking is the process of hiding, suppressing, or compensating for ADHD-related difficulties in order to meet expectations or avoid judgment.
Masking can look like:
Over-preparing for everything
Perfectionism
People-pleasing
Creating rigid routines to avoid forgetting things
Spending excessive amounts of time organizing or planning
Copying others’ actions to fit in
Pushing through exhaustion rather than acknowledging your limits
Avoiding situations where your ADHD symptoms might become noticeable
Often, folks don't realize how much energy they have spent trying to appear "typical," capable, or in control until they receive an ADHD diagnosis.
What Will Individual ADHD Therapy Address?
Individual therapy for late-diagnosed ADHD is a collaborative space to better understand yourself and develop practical tools for everyday life.
Our work may include:
Understanding Your ADHD
We'll explore how ADHD shows up specifically for you - including your strengths, challenges, patterns, and coping strategies. Rather than focusing only on what feels difficult, we'll develop a more complete and compassionate understanding of how your brain works.
Reducing Shame and Self-Criticism
Years of feeling "undisciplined," "too sensitive," or "not living up to your potential" can have a lasting impact on self-esteem. Therapy can help you challenge these narratives and develop a more compassionate relationship with yourself.
Managing Executive Functioning Challenges
We can work on the practical challenges of planning, organization, time management, prioritization, task initiation, and follow-through.
Working With Emotional Regulation
ADHD isn't only about attention. Many adults experience strong emotions, frustration, overwhelm, or difficulty recovering after stressful experiences. We'll practice nonjudgmental skills for recognizing and regulating emotions.
Addressing Perfectionism and Masking
You may have spent years compensating for ADHD by trying to be perfect. Therapy can help you identify these patterns, understand where they came from, and develop more sustainable ways of functioning.
Preventing Burnout
When you've spent years relying on avoiding negative consequences and urgency to get things done, burnout can become a recurring cycle. We'll work toward creating sustainable routines, boundaries, and expectations.
Techniques We Use at Our Therapy Practice
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We can use Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to examine the interplay of thoughts, feelings, and actions, and unpack perceived beliefs.
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We will explore how your current habits and patterns are aligning with your short and long term goals and values.
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Dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) can help with emotional regulation, accept difficult situations, and make positive life choices.
Practical Skills We Teach
Depending on your goals, we may practice executive functioning skills and emotional regulation such as:
Routine building: Developing flexible routines that fit your life and your ADHD brain.
Emotional regulation, self-compassion and challenging perfectionism: Replacing shame and self-criticism with a more supportive internal voice.
Burnout prevention: Recognizing your limits and developing more sustainable ways to work, rest, and recover.
Reducing masking: Exploring how you can show up more authentically.
